A mother cries out after a man marries his daughter without their consent

Pastor wedded my daughter with a man who
never paid her bride price; he didn't get our
consent let alone conducting a traditional
marriage between our daughter and himself and
family. But his Pastor went ahead and joined
them into holy matrimony without even seeking a
letter of parental approval from my husband and
I.
As we speak now, they are already living
together like man and wife with their Pastor's
backing.
Our entire family -both extended and immediate
are distraught with the evil development and are
somewhat confused; my daughter herself sees
nothing wrong with the whole arrangements.
Pls brothers and sisters what shall we do to get
our daughter back? We can't sit and watch a
stranger steal a child we suffered to train for
many years.